Dating in pitfall
Almost every week there is a story somewhere in the media of a man who has taken the life of a partner who has rejected him.All too often children are also the victims of these tragic events.These include isolation, substance abuse, frantic seeking of a replacement partner, denial and an unwillingness to share grief with friends and family.
The longer a man stays angry, the longer it takes to accept the new reality and start making life better again.Another way that men use their anger to feel powerful is to punish the departing partner by damaging her reputation, reporting long kept secrets or complaints, attempting to diminish her to her friends, family and community.Men who deal with separation with intense anger often pay a high price for using such a destructive and ultimately ineffective coping mechanism.One emotion our society does easily accept from men is anger, so it is often anger that we see in men, especially when they are in the presence of others.
Usually the intensity of the anger is related to the intensity of the (unexpressed) grief. It can cause men to say or do things that hurt the person who rejected them.
Anger and denial interfere with the ability to heal from the loss and, eventually, to form new relationships.